Hidden assumptions in the gay rights debate

Some gays and their supporters are just awful. They’re lewd and crude, loud and proud, and totally intolerant. If one so much as suggests that the homosexual lifestyle is problematic, they’re in your face and calling for your head. Others are less obnoxious but still think the opposition deserves to be castigated and decapitated, figuratively speaking.

Gays who target businesses for their conservative views on homosexuality, like the couple who took their case against the Colorado baker all the way to the Supreme Court, are some of the awful ones. But though it was certainly gratifying to have the Court rule against them, the decision did not establish the constitutionality of denying particular services based on one’s religious beliefs. So we will likely see a similar case before the court in the near future.

Call me a clueless conservative, but I think I understand the pro-gay position pretty well. I haven’t seen much evidence, however, that gay-rights supporters understand ours. I have serious doubts that many of them even want to. But, oh, what a decrease in divisiveness there would be if both sides really sought after mutual understanding. Not that many would change their minds on the moral status of homosexuality, but perhaps there would be less animosity and more real tolerance.

Let’s break this down
So towards that end, here’s how one conservative sees it (that would be me). The position of those who charge Christians with hatred and bigotry if they won’t provide services for same-sex weddings can be expressed as a syllogism:

  1. All people are equal, gay and straight.
  2. To deny the same service to gays that you provide to straights is treating the groups as unequal.
  3. Treating a group of people as unequal and inferior is bigotry.
  4. Therefore, Christians who won’t provide services for same-sex weddings are bigots.

This argument seems pretty straightforward and persuasive on its face, until you consider the assumptions being made. And for the argument to go through, the assumptions must also. These assumptions act as hidden premises and exposing them renders the argument thus:

  1. All people are equal, gay and straight.
  2. To deny the same service to gays that you provide to straights is treating the groups as unequal.
  3. God either does not exist or has no authority over our lives.
  4. Discriminating between groups based on religious beliefs devalues one group as inferior.
  5. Treating a group of people as unequal and inferior is bigotry.
  6. Therefore, Christians who won’t provide services for same-sex weddings are bigots.

The hidden premises 3 and 4 must be true for their conclusion to be true. But are any of them really willing and able to defend them with evidence? If the God revealed in the Bible exists, he is our sovereign authority and supersedes any and every earthly authority. Every gay rights supporter who condemns a Christian for his or her position on homosexuality is assuming that premise 3 is true.

Premise 4 is a mischaracterization of the Christian position, even though “discriminating” is accurate. As those under God’s authority, Christians are called to discriminate between beliefs and activities that honor him and are according to his will, and those that don’t. That’s rightful judging, and the kind of judging gay rights supporters do as well. When they condemn Christians for our position, are they not judging us to be wrong based on their assumed code of morality? If our discriminating based on our beliefs devalues a whole group as inferior, so does theirs. If our position makes us bigots, so does theirs make them bigots as well.

The second is important, but the first is more so
But as we are not discriminating against people but against their activities and beliefs, there is no assumption of inferiority. Christians who are true to our calling to love our neighbor can continue to acknowledge and honor the inherent worth in every individual, and love them even while we oppose their beliefs and behavior.

Some will say, if we love them we should support their desired lifestyle. That argument, too, assumes hidden premise 3. But God does exist and though he commands us to “Love your neighbor as yourself,” that commandment is the second greatest. The first is, “you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.”

God, and our love for and obedience to him, must come first. I really wish our detractors understood that.